Harriette Cole: I don’t know how this man could just dump me like he did

DEAR HARRIETTE I ve been getting close to a man for the past year and a half and the other day we had a big blow-up Related Articles Harriette Cole Why aren t my sons dating I even offered to pay for it Harriette Cole This eager apprentice has become a distraction in class Harriette Cole My sister is stalking again and I can t deal with it Harriette Cole I m sorry my friend is mad but she brought this on herself Harriette Cole Why am I being blamed for my friend s hurt feelings I didn t like the lax way that he was responding to me and I wrote him a note saying as much He got angry and accused me of speaking to him like he was my child When I attempted to address the issue at hand namely his unresponsiveness he got madder Next thing you know he had blocked me on social media knocked me off of a shared email address that we had and summarily ghosted me I did not expect this I haven t heard from him in weeks I have walked past places where we used to see each other but he hasn t been there I know I should just walk away but my heart hurts How could he do that He s a grown man Why wouldn t he talk to me about the situation rather than thoroughly shut me out Dumped DEAR DUMPED Whatever his rationale this man has made it clear to you that he is done For him the relationship is over Stand down Do not humiliate yourself by attempting to reconnect with him Who knows why he reacted so intensely Sometimes you don t get an answer when it comes to people s behavior but his message couldn t be clearer He doesn t want to talk to you interact with you or be with you I m sorry but you need to accept this and walk away DEAR HARRIETTE My mother passed away a insufficient months ago and I miss her so much I was going through my phone not long ago and came upon specific audio recordings of her talking about her life Her voice sounds weak but it was so nice hearing her tell her stories It was bittersweet though as listening to her reminds me of the fact that I can t hug her or talk to her anymore Still I loved hearing her voice I want to share these recordings of my mom with my siblings I do wonder though if it will make them have a wave of emotions just as I did Would it be insensitive of me to do that How should I address this so that I can be as thoughtful as accomplishable Mama s Voice Related Articles Miss Manners The store manager berated me after my run-in with a noisy child Dear Abby My podcast might cost me my marriage Asking Eric My wife was very keen on rural living until we got here Dear Abby My sister the favored child believes the lie my father tells about me Asking Eric I wish I didn t have to hear this mockery of my parents DEAR MAMA S VOICE You are so fortunate to have exposed these recordings Be sure to preserve them so that you will have them for a large number of years to come At the very least transfer them from your phone and put them on a hard drive or cloud storage so that you have a copy you can access if something were to happen to your phone Before sharing listen to make sure everything is appropriate and relevant For example you might not share one if the sound quality is bad and you can t decipher the words or if it is redundant or reveals a tender moment that might be better not to relive Send a note to your siblings or call them individually and let them know what you exposed Speak of the recordings you have located and ask whether they would like to hear them Send them to the ones who want them Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO