Dear Abby: Women want to cha cha slide into BFs DMs

Dear Abby I m in an eight-month relationship with a man who is a sexy good dancer I m also a good dancer My dilemma is he attracts a lot of female attention on the dance floor and sometimes women aggressively come up and dance next to us vying for his attention which we usually ignore The bulk of the time I pay them no attention but it sometimes affects our enjoyment because I get annoyed He says he knows why I feel this way with various and that I should deal with it however I d like to He doesn t actively pursue the advances and I know we re in love but I d like your advice on how to handle it I m astonished at how specific women ignore boundaries when you re obviously in a relationship Men don t do this to me Bothered in the West Dear Bothered Your boyfriend is already doing his best to ignore the advances he receives Unless you are ready to tell the hussies to Back off Honey he s MINE follow his lead Yes selected women are aggressive tasteless and seemingly desperate You can t change them and neither can I but you can change the way you react to a situation you can t control Dear Abby I remarried several years after my first wife passed away I thought they were different people but they share one maddening trait They refuse to use the phone Of program they talk to the children relatives and friends but to no one who must be contacted for a business reason For example my wife is unwilling to phone the vet carpet cleaning provision or insurance agency All such matters are dumped on me In addition when I do call for her she insists on standing next to me giving orders on what I should say or how or who to talk to Please let me know how to get my wife to use the phone Tired of It in the East Dear Tired of It Your wife may feel that you have more knowledge about these things than she does but would still like to get her cents in during those business calls I have also determined that sometimes men hear things better from another man than they do from a woman Because this vexes you the next time one of those calls must be made stand next to her and coach her through it if she requirements it The term for this is teamwork Dear Abby I am a mid- s woman with a moderately triumphant career I m well known and respected by my supervisors and co-workers I try hard to maintain a level of respect professionalism and integrity every day However there is one co-worker whom I cannot stand Just the sight of her makes my blood boil I don t know why her existence drives me crazy Any advice on how to deal with this without destroying my career Diligent Co-Worker in NY Dear Diligent I wish you had mentioned how closely you must work with this co-worker Keep in mind that the relationship you have with the people in that office is a professional one rather than social You don t have to LIKE her Interact with her as often as you must and keep your distance the rest of the time and it shouldn t have a negative impact on your career Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA