Dear Abby: She had an astonishing reaction to my family photo

DEAR ABBY I have a persecution complex I know where it comes from My mother repeatedly communicated me how ugly I was as a child Related Articles Dear Abby I think my friends should refund my vacation money but they refuse Dear Abby How should I dress to show I m tough enough for the job Dear Abby His dogs got Wagyu while I ate a days-old sandwich Should I speak up Dear Abby I saw a mom slap her kid at the store What should I have done Dear Abby Our father was a terrible person but I still can t get behind my sister s plan In recent months I was going through certain rough times My sister who I was in charge of had a massive stroke and died I d had to take care of her and I resented it When she had the stroke I began reminiscing and not all of the memories were good ones I happened upon a picture of my family taken when I was My older sisters and parents were also in the photo When I demonstrated the photo to my friend her reaction left me speechless She practically threw the phone down and reported What an ugly family Your mother is ugly and fat and your father is ugly too She continued with more of the same Other than that she s a kind and giving friend I can t get over what she noted because I know I m ugly and I hate being so But if we were so offensive why would she be friends with me We are now in our s so beauty is in the rear window How do I deal with her when she asks why I have become so remote without putting myself down further TAKEN ABACK IN FLORIDA DEAR TAKEN ABACK Excuse me but kind and giving people do not make nasty comments about their friend s relatives physical appearance What she did was off-the-charts unpleasant and your reaction is normal If your friend asks why you have been remote lately tell her how shocked you were by her hurtful comments about the family picture Not everyone is favored with physical beauty but countless people are considered beautiful because of the kindness that shines from within DEAR ABBY I had my DNA analyzed and subsequently received a message from a young woman a stranger on the testing company s site Her DNA matches at the level of a niece Her message disclosed she did not know her father and her mother hasn t been clear on that subject Her mother met a guy back in early She was born later that year She believes I m her uncle and requested if I know any male relatives who could be her father I let her know I d get back to her When I spoke with my brother he corroborated details in her message about meeting her mother which was a hookup The news of a daughter he never knew about is overwhelming for him He as of now has a kid and his wife is pregnant again He also has an adult daughter from a previous marriage Related Articles Asking Eric My co-worker won t speak to me since my child caused an circumstance Dear Abby I think my friends should refund my vacation money but they refuse Asking Eric We take secret trips without our other friend Is that wrong Harriette Cole Their vacation plan is setting me up to be the bad sibling Miss Manners I offer my cheek but she swoops for my lips I have not yet responded to this woman as I await my brother s decision about how he wants to proceed What advice do you have about how I should respond to my niece MAYBE UNCLE IN TEXAS DEAR MAYBE UNCLE You should not be the middleman from now on Respond to the young woman by telling her you are giving her contact information to your brother Once you have done that you should let him decide how to handle it from there Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA