Dear Abby: A refresher course in saying ‘thank you’

Dear Abby I think you once wrote that failure to thank people for gifts is the No complaint you receive Well I can see why My daughters grandchildren nieces and nephew not only fail to acknowledge gifts which involve thought time and effort but they also do not acknowledge receiving them when I send them by mail My mother taught me to write thank-you notes and I taught my daughters the same but you d never know it My daughters and nieces have not taught their children to acknowledge gifts and if I don t personally HAND the gift to any of them I don t know if it was received Needless to say I think this is ungrateful and rude I am thinking of enclosing self-addressed stamped envelopes with the gifts this year as a broad hint I m also considering not giving anything to the nieces and nephew I won t see at Christmas and telling their parents why That may ensure my being labeled fussy or unkind but I m so fed up I m almost past caring Is your publication about how to write thank-you notes still available so I can include it too Sick of the Ingratitude Dear Sick You are right A LOT of people share your grievance on this subject Your idea about enclosing stamped self-addressed envelopes with your gifts isn t a bad one and my booklet is still available It is titled How To Write Letters for All Occasions A multitude of folks avoid writing thank-you notes because they don t know how to put their thoughts on paper They fear they ll say the wrong thing or think a thank-you note must be long and flowery when short and to the point is more effective Writing is a skill and it demands to be practiced so it comes easily How To Write Letters contains samples of thank-you letters for birthday gifts shower gifts and wedding gifts as well as those that arrive around holiday time It also includes letters of congratulations and ones regarding arduous subjects such as the loss of a loved one The booklet can be ordered by sending your name and address plus a check or money order for U S funds to Dear Abby Letters Booklet P O Box Kings Mills OH - Shipping and handling are included in the price With the holiday season fast approaching this is the perfect time to reply with a handwritten note or well-written email Because letter composition has not reliably been effectively taught in the schools my booklet can serve as a helpful tutorial a valuable tool for parents to use in teaching their children to write using proper etiquette as well as a handy guide for anyone who puts off writing because they don t know what to say Dear Abby If I am aware that a -year-old is having sexual relations with another -year-old should I inform the parents Wondering in New Hampshire Dear Wondering The age of consent in New Hampshire is Rather than tell the parents talk to the teens to be sure they know what they need to know about the responsibilities that go along with sex to help them prevent an unwanted pregnancy or an STD Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA